Young Schema Questionnaire (YSQ-S3)

Below is a list of statements that may describe you. Read each of them and decide how well it fits you.

Rate the truthfulness of the statements on a scale of 1 to 6.

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I haven't gotten enough love and attention.

For the most part, I haven't had anyone to depend on for advice or emotional support.

For the most part, I haven't had anyone who nurtures me, shares him/herself with me, or cares deeply about everything that happens to me.

For much of my life, I haven't had anyone who wanted to get close to me and spend a lot of time with me.

In general, people have not been there to give me warmth, holding, and affection.

I cling to people I'm close to because I'm afraid they'll leave me.

I worry that people I feel close to will leave me or abandon me.

When I feel someone I care about pulling away from me, I get desperate.

I feel that close relationships will not last; I expect them to end.

I worry that the people I love will find someone else they prefer and leave me.

Most people only think about themselves.

It is very difficult for me to trust others.

I am quite suspicious of other people's intentions.

Other people are rarely honest; they are usually not what they seem.

I usually look for the ulterior motives of others.

I don't fit in anywhere; I'm a loner.

I feel alienated.

I feel isolated and alone.

I always feel on the outside of groups.

Sometimes I feel like an alien or outsider.

No man/woman I desire could love me once he/she saw my defects.

No one I desire would want to be close to me if they knew the real me.

I am unworthy of the love, attention, or respect of others.

I feel that I am unlovable.

I don't understand how anyone could love me.

Almost nothing I do at work (or school) is as good as other people's work.

I am incompetent when it comes to achievement.

Most people are more capable than I am in work (school) and achievement.

I am not as talented as most people at work (or school).

I am not as intelligent as most people when it comes to work (or school).

I do not feel confident about my ability to handle everyday problems.

I need other people to help me get by.

I do not feel I can cope well by myself.

I believe that other people can take care of me better than I can take care of myself.

I have trouble tackling new tasks outside of work unless I have someone to guide me.

I feel that a disaster (natural, criminal, financial, or medical) could strike at any moment.

I worry about being attacked.

I take extra precautions to avoid getting sick or hurt.

I worry that I'm developing a serious illness, even though nothing serious has been diagnosed.

I frequently worry that I might have a heart attack or cancer, even though there is no medical reason for my concern.

My parent(s) and I tend to be over-involved in each other's lives and problems.

It is very difficult for my parent(s) and me to keep intimate details from each other without feeling betrayed or guilty.

I often feel as if I do not have a separate identity from my parent(s) or partner.

I often feel as if my parent(s) are living through me - I don't have a life of my own.

I feel that my parent(s) would be hurt or feel abandoned if I lived my own life.

I feel I have no choice but to give in to other people's wishes, or else they will retaliate or reject me.

In relationships, I let the other person have the upper hand.

I've always let others make choices for me, so I really don't know what I want for myself.

I feel the major decisions in my life were not really my own.

I find it difficult to demand that my rights be respected and my feelings taken into account.

I am a good person because I think of others more than of myself.

No matter how busy I am, I can always find time for others.

I am only happy when people around me are happy.

I have always been the one who listens to everyone else's problems.

I feel better giving something to someone else than receiving a gift.

I am too self-conscious to show positive feelings to others (e.g., affection, showing I care).

I find it embarrassing to express my feelings to others.

I find it hard to be warm and spontaneous.

I control myself so much that people think I am unemotional.

People see me as emotionally tight.

I have so much to accomplish that there is no time to relax.

I feel constant pressure to achieve and get things done.

My relationships suffer because I push myself so hard.

My health is suffering because I put myself under so much pressure to do well.

I often sacrifice pleasure and happiness to meet my own standards.

I am special and shouldn't have to accept many of the restrictions placed on other people.

I hate being constrained or kept from doing what I want.

I feel that I shouldn't have to follow the normal rules and conventions that other people do.

I feel that what I have to offer is of greater value than the contributions of others.

I usually put my needs ahead of the needs of others.

I can't seem to get myself to do the boring or routine chores.

If I can't reach a goal, I become easily frustrated and give up.

When tasks get difficult, I usually cannot persevere and complete them.

I can't force myself to do things I don't enjoy, even when I know it's for my own good.

I have rarely been able to stick to my resolutions.

It is important to me to be liked by almost everyone I know.

I change myself depending on the people I'm with, so they'll like me.

I try hard to fit in.

My self-esteem depends mostly on how others view me.

Achievements are most valuable to me if others notice them.

Even when things seem to be going well, I feel that it is only temporary.

When something good happens, I worry that something bad will follow.

You can never be too careful; almost always something will go wrong.

I worry that a wrong decision could lead to a disaster.

I prefer to assume that I will fail than to be disappointed if something goes wrong.